I also would recommend that if a player is bothering you, hit the ignore button and forbid them joining the alliance.
If you are one who is constantly trying to recruit by messaging members of other alliances. Don’t do this , it doesn’t make you alliance attractive to those who aren’t in it, all it does is piss off those members and tarnish yours and your alliances rep within the community. Do what the rest of us have had to do, make you alliance different from all the others so it has a niche and stands out, then recruit on the forum on the recruitment section.